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Raising Financially Fit Kids

By Joline Godfrey and Kit Hinrichs

#finance#money management#allowance#budgeting#financial literacy#values#philanthropy

Section 1: Analysis & Insights

Executive Summary

Thesis: Financial literacy is not just about math; it is about values, character, and independence. Godfrey argues that "Financial Fitness" is a life skill as critical as reading. Without it, children remain dependent ("adultolescents"). The book proposes a developmental approach: treating money education as an apprenticeship that moves from simple saving to complex investing and philanthropy. Unique Contribution: The book separates Allowance from Chores. Godfrey argues that allowance is "practice money" (an educational tool), while chores are "citizen duties." Mixing them creates a "wage-labor" mindset too early and undermines family cohesion. She also introduces the Money Mentor Team—using other adults to teach your kids about money to reduce emotional friction. Target Outcome: A child who is financially literate, grateful, generous, and eventually, financially independent.

Chapter Breakdown

  • Part I: The Basics: Assessing your own money values and style.
  • Part II: The Developmental Stages: Age-appropriate money skills (5-8, 9-12, 13-15, 16-18).
  • Part III: The Big Issues: Entitlement, Affluence, and Credit.

Nuanced Main Topics

The 3 Jars (Save, Spend, Share)

The classic system, but with a twist: Mandatory allocations.

  • Spend: For discretionary wants (candy, toys).
  • Save: For medium-term goals (Lego set).
  • Share: For charity. (Teaches that money has social power).

Allowance vs. Wages

  • Allowance: Given weekly. Not tied to chores. Purpose: To learn how to manage a confined resource.
  • Wages: Paid for extra jobs (washing the car, painting the fence). Tied to performance. Purpose: To learn the link between effort and income.
  • Citizen Duties: Daily chores (dishes, bed). Unpaid. Purpose: Because you live here.

The Money Mentor

Parents carry too much emotional baggage to be the only financial teachers. Godfrey suggests finding a "Money Mentor" (an uncle, a diverse friend) who can talk to the teen about stocks, debt, or career without the parent-child power struggle.

Section 2: Actionable Framework

The Checklist

  • The "Jar" Setup: Create physical jars (Save, Spend, Share) for young kids. Bank accounts for teens.
  • The Allowance Contract: Write down exactly what allowance covers (e.g., "movies yes, clothes no") and sign it.
  • The "No Bailout" Policy: If they run out of money, practice empathy but do not give more.
  • The "Want" List: When they ask for something, say "Put it on the list." Review the list monthly.
  • The Introduction: Introduce them to a potential "Money Mentor."

Implementation Steps (Process)

Process 1: The Allowance System

Purpose: To teach budgeting. Steps:

  1. Calculate: Determine an amount equal to their age (e.g., $8/week) OR based on what expenses they take over.
  2. Define: "This must cover 30% savings, 10% charity, 60% spending."
  3. Distribute: Physical cash for <10. Digital transfer for >12.
  4. Review: Monthly check-in. "How is the saving going?" (No judgment).

Process 2: The "Citizen vs. Wage" Audit

Purpose: To clarify roles. Steps:

  1. List: Write down all household tasks.
  2. Categorize: Mark them as "Citizen" (unpaid) or "Wage" (paid).
  3. Negotiate: Let the child pick 1 "Wage" job to earn extra money.
  4. Inspect: Wage jobs must be done to "market standard" or they don't get paid.

Process 3: The Philanthropy Project

Purpose: To teach power and gratitude. Steps:

  1. Accumulate: Let the "Share" jar/account build up.
  2. Research: Have them pick a cause (animals, hunger).
  3. Visit: Go to the charity or look at their website.
  4. Donate: Have them hand over the money/check.

Common Pitfalls

  • The "Bailout": Giving them $20 because they spent their allowance and "really need" to go to the movies. (Teaches irresponsibility).
  • Using Money as Punishment: "You were rude, no allowance." (Confuses behavioral discipline with financial education).
  • The "Silence": Treating money as a taboo subject. (Teaches that money is shameful or mysterious).
  • Inconsistency: Forgetting to pay allowance. (Teaches that income is unpredictable).